There is a special place in hell for women who don’t help each other.
– Madeleine Albright
Men Versus Women
Men always support each other. They all have “wingmen” to help them find a girl when they are out and they high five each other when they succeed. Women are the total opposite. Unfortunately, you will never see women supporting women when they are out. If one woman has a guy walk up to her, all of her friends will instantly be jealous and they will try to find a way to get the guy from her.
Why are women always trying to find ways to spoil things, while the men are always encouraging each other? Jim Rohn is a motivational speaker and he says, “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” With that being said, if our closest friends are successful, then we will be successful. The question then becomes, why do we bring others down to feel better about ourselves?
According to the author of “The Woman Code”, Sophia Nelson, women are taught early on that they need to be prettier, taller and smarter than anyone else. Most women feel like they were taught that they were not good enough at anything and that they would need a man in their life in order to feel better about themselves. This man was supposed to take care of them, because they couldn’t take care of themselves.
Since most of us were brought up to feel like this, we end up competing with each other for the successful men that are available.
How Men Are Different
Men are the complete opposite. They know that there is strength in numbers and that they can succeed much easier with the support of each other. This support carries over from their business life, to their social and personal life. According to a study conducted by The University of Valencia, men are also not concerned with their colleague’s looks. In this same study, it was found that this is not true with women. Women are very jealous of attractive colleagues.
According to a study men are also not concerned with their colleague’s looks and women are very jealous of attractive colleagues.
Women Supporting Women
It is time for a change, so that women are supporting women. There are five things that Sophia Nelson says we can do in order to support each other.
1. Stay away from women who do not have women friends
2. Collaborate and share information
3. Mentor other women
4. Reciprocate favors given to you
5. Have courageous conversations
It has become time for women to unite and support each other. Men have been successful for a long time with this concept and it should now be our turn.
“The Woman Code exposes the personal, emotional, spiritual, professional and social areas where the distortions lie, and shares principles for making genuine life transformation. Nelson’s words appear like rest stops welcoming the reader to bring forth her true self, “To be a woman is power in motion.” The Codes challenge antiquated ideas on womanhood, including attitudes that women have toward one another. The Woman Code is a straightforward, comprehensive guide to liberate the true woman inside.”-Huffington Post Book Review, September 2014
“Sophia A. Nelson unlocks the secrets to finding your purpose. Nelson, a card-carrying supporter of sisterhood, suggests that in an interdependent world, women must work together to build better lives and more meaningful professional achievements. This book is grounded in 20 Principles that will provide greater balance with family and friends, and in one’s spiritual walk and romantic relationships.”
-Essence Magazine, December 2014