The digital age has proliferated information and technology to make our lives easier, but its wealth of information can sometimes be overwhelming. When it comes to dating, it seems there are so many ways a Bachelorette can choose from: should she go to a Singles Mingles event? Try Speed Dating? Sign up for a Match.com account, or go to a personal Matchmaker? Let’s discuss some main differences:
A quick overview:
You see ONE picture, you swipe left for “don’t like” or right to “like”. Mutual likes get notifications. It has been reported on CNBC, however, that 30% of men on Tinder (and most likely all free dating apps as well) are married. Quick and easy, but no one seems to be serious about finding a relationship on here, mainly a hook-up place. Read more about Tinder here.
30% of men on Tinder (and most likely all free dating apps as well) are married
MATCH.com and POF:
You create a profile, can browse, and pay a premium to have an upgraded account where you are featured more often. POF has 6 options to choose from for “What are you looking for”? everything from “no strings attached” to “looking for someone to marry”. Creating a profile takes about 5 minutes or less. POF is free, Match.com is about $20-$30/month.
Don’t waste your time. there are no specific criteria or set of questions to answer. it’s write-whatever-you-want type of platform. No option for search parameters either.
Most speed dating are categorized based on age, but the range is wide (24-35), (25-50)…. Number of people and how many minutes you get varies, but generally about 20 people total, equal number of men and woman. The women sit in separate tables while the men rotate, until everyone has had a chance to chat with everyone in 5-minute conversations. At the end there’s usually also an opportunity for members to hang around
The women sit in separate tables while the men rotate, until everyone has had a chance to chat with everyone in 5-minute conversations.
Singles Mingle event:
Entrance fee is usually $5-$15, just pay for your own drinks. Event takes place at a bar. A sort of free-for-all, you’re on your own, type of event. Most people bring a friend with them, but not all and not necessary. 20-35 attendees are normal for this sort of event. This is the best bang for your buck. Match.com has one or two of these each month for $5 for their paid members.
Real Matchmaking service: It’s Just Lunch!
This is a popular personal matchmaking service. typically runs about $1200-$1500 for a 6-month membership, with 6 guaranteed dates; personal interviews and background checks usually required. The pricey ticket usually means you get very motivated individuals who are serious about finding a wife, but it also means it’s a very small pool of people.
Through all my experiences with EVERY SINGLE one of these platforms, my favorite is Match.com. I love that I could browse from the comfort of my own home, for any parameter I can think of. (read here for my in-depth review of this service). It’s also a very large community with new members added regularly, so the chances of finding someone special, is likely.
Generally there are more motivated individuals on paid sites looking for a real relationship, and there are more men looking for a no-strings-attached on free sites. However this does not mean free sites do not have serious men of high quality. I’ve met business owners, pilots, Senior Directors, and Regional Vice Presidents on free sites; likewise I’ve met men on paid sites just looking for sex. Use your best judgement, and ask questions!!