The Things We Celebrate
Why is it that most of the things we celebrate involves being in a couple, or having babies: Bachelorette parties, a child’s birthday, a wedding, an anniversary of all sorts, baby showers, engagement parties, etc… What about the rest of us who choose to not couple up, or to not have babies? What do we get to celebrate?
If any woman in the world decided to throw a “I don’t have a baby” or an “I’m single and awesome” party, I would be the first person to RSVP.
Sex and the City’s Carrie
Do you remember the Sex And The City episode where Sarah Jessica Parker’s character, Carrie, lost her shoes? She was at her married friend’s house when she lost her $400 Manolo Blahniks and her friend “shoe shamed” her, because “they are only shoes”.
After thinking about it, she realized that she had spent over $1,000 celebrating her married friend’s life choices while her friend, and no one else, had celebrated hers. In a culture that celebrates weddings, anniversaries, baby showers, Valentine’s Day and more there is often a single person who has no event where they can celebrate themselves.
Carrie was shamed over her life choices – spending extravagant amounts of money on shoes – and she really resented it.
Every year on Valentine’s Day, I celebrate being single with at least one of my friends.
Samantha, one of Carrie’s three best friends, retaliated against this societal discrimination against single people and threw a “I don’t have a baby” shower which was a celebration of her own single-dom. Samantha is such a fabulous person and the party was a huge success.
The concept of being single and childless was new, but why shouldn’t it be celebrated just the same? If that is your life choice and you are happy with it then there is nothing wrong with celebrating that choice.
If any woman in the world decided to throw a “I don’t have a baby” or an “I’m single and awesome” party, I would be the first person to RSVP. I believe that as long as we are happy then we should be celebrating the fact that we are single. People who are not married should not have to forgo celebrations at any time.
Celebrating Myself And My Life
I take the time to celebrate myself as often as I can. Sometimes these celebrations are on my own, but many times they include other people. I celebrated my 30th birthday with a boudoir photoshoot and my 31st birthday with 4 different dinners. On my 32nd birthday, I had 5 dinners with friends from different walks of life. Every year on Valentine’s Day, I celebrate being single with at least one of my friends.
I have heard too many comments from my friends who stop celebrating their own birthdays because they now celebrate their children’s birthdays. I haven’t quite figured out why they cannot celebrate both! Why is it that when we have children, our own lives are supposed to come second? There is definitely room for two 1st places, isn’t there? I believe that there is.
Every single person needs to take the time to celebrate themselves and their life! You need to be happy with who you are and treat yourself like the special person that you have become.