I was called a “gold-digger”, a “whore”..Here, Why I do not care

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There are many positive people in this world, however most of the time it seems like there are more negative people around.  Over the years, I have learned that we should care less about the negative people and the negative comments that we hear and spend more time with the people who bring joy to our lives.

No one is ever going to give me a “high five” for sleeping with ten different men in a week, but a guy would be a hero amongst his peers.

This unfair world

Being a Bachelorette means that I have to face this cruel world where I date a lot of men and face quite a bit of harsh criticism from many people.  The rules are definitely different for men and women in this world.

Bachelorettes vs. Bachelors

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Men who are single are considered “bachelors” while single women are considered “old maids”.  Men may be considered “players”, yet women are looked down upon and called a “whore”.  

No one is ever going to give me a “high five” for sleeping with ten different men in a week, but a guy would be a hero amongst his peers.

If I actually did sleep with multiple men in one week, I would end up in the “don’t be caught with her” category.  

It has never mattered with what I do, because it has never been right and it has never been wrong.

Name Calling

I have been called many names by many people.  Sometimes it has been by a woman and other times it has been by a man.  

Now, look at me straight in the eye and ask me if I care. (hint: the answer is in the negative)

Here are some of the hilarious scenarios where men have called me names:

“Unwanted” vs. “Whore”

6 months after I broke up with my boyfriend, I wasn’t dating and he told me that I was  unwanted and that no one would ever want to F*** me.

When I did the opposite:

Another boyfriend I broke up with told me that I was whoring myself out, simply because I started dating 6 months after we broke up.

I choose to only engage with men who think highly of me and I basically ignore the rest.

“Gold-digger” vs.“Desperate” 

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I stopped dating a guy 6 weeks after we started going out, because he didn’t meet my standards. He called me a gold-digger because he attributed my breaking up with him directly as a result of his low income. I guess he didn’t see his violent tendencies as a good reason for a girl to want nothing to do with him!

When I did the opposite:

Whenever I have dated men who make less than I do, I have found that girls gossip about how desperate I must be to settle for that guy.

“Prude” vs. “Easy”

When I took my time and got to know a guy before I slept with him, I was told to chill out and relax and people told me that I was a prude.  

When I did the opposite:

I slept with a guy on the first few dates, and I was labeled easy.  

 

I Am Just Myself

I am just me - Janine
I am just me – Janine

It has never mattered with what I do, because it has never been right and it has never been wrong.  

I am who I am and I am happy with that!

People are always entitled to their own opinions and they are always going to call you whatever they want to.  That’s okay, because certain things are not worth the trouble.

I choose to only engage with men who think highly of me and I basically ignore the rest.

If a guy ever thinks negatively of you, do not argue or try to prove him wrong.  Say goodbye and move on.

You should only have people in your life who think highly of you and who sees you for the valuable and beautiful person that you really are.

So, the next time a person tries calling you a name, ignore them and concentrate on the good things in your life.  Surround yourself with people who love and care about you and forget about everyone else!

 

 

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