Welcome to my website!
My goal is to redefine what the word “Bachelorette” means in our culture. Whereas the masculine word “Bachelor” enjoys many positive characteristics, the same is not true for its feminine equivalent.
It is time to change that.
The word “Bachelorette” describes a single, fun, and fearless woman. This status is a transient state of being, not a permanent one. It can change to “married”, when the Bachelorette finds a lucky man who is worthy of her.
CHARACTERISTICS OF A BACHELORETTE
A Bachelorette dates because she wants to, not because she needs to. She takes care of herself well, and always puts herself first. She recognizes that her needs are just as important as anyone else’s needs. She is involved in many activities and hobbies, she is independent both financially and emotionally. She might want a man, but never needs one. She has a strong sense of self, she engages with others well, but also enjoys time alone.
At the age of 26, I got my doctorate degree, got married, got pregnant, and landed my first real salaried job all in one year. It was overwhelming and hectic, to say the least.
The following year I did what every American dreams to do: bought a house, had babies, held a 6-figure job.
What I DIDN’T do, however, was stopped and asked myself “is this what I want?” I followed the herd and never questioned if it was for me.
After my divorce 2 short years later I went through 3 years of heart-wrenching soul-searching, and I finally found myself: I do not believe in monogamy. In fact, I think this concept is laughable. Short-term monogamy, I still believe in, but the “I’m-married-and-I’ll-only-sleep-with-one-person-for-the-rest-of-my-life” is very unnatural, I think.
I date many men, usually 3 is a sweet spot for me, but that depends on the dynamics I have with these men. Some have been a few months only, most a year or two, I also have one man I’ve been seeing for over 3 years and still do today. The number does not change, but the men do, and I am happy to report that I am on excellent terms with all of them today. We have a friendship, and we remain friends long after our dating ended.
Do they know I date other men?
It wouldn’t work any other way.
This world is difficult to navigate at first, since society never talks about it, it is almost taboo for anyone, let alone a woman, talk about seeing more than one man at a time. There exist very little guidance, Rules book or other roadmap for women who thrives in a polyamorous world.
IS THIS WEBSITE FOR YOU?
This website is designed for you, if you believe in dating more than one man at a time. You define for yourself what that means, from the left end of the spectrum (one-night-stands) to the other end of the spectrum (full-blown relationships), you decide what is right for you, and let NO ONE tell you otherwise.
So let’s join hands, and navigate this difficult path together. Welcome to my blog.